Choosing to have weight loss surgery is a major life choice – one that comes with lots of hard work and preparation for the person going under the knife. Unfortunately, people are often judged and scrutinized for having the surgery, despite being picked apart previously for having a body outside of what's deemed "normal." (Mariah Carey is just one recent example of this.)
Ahead are just a few of the horrific things people have heard after getting weight loss surgery.
"You need to
stop losing weight because if you lose more then you'll be as small (or smaller
than) me.” – via Reddit
Oh, didn't realize this was about you...
"My heart is heavy today and has been since Saturday when my best friend dropped the bomb that she's getting weight loss surgery," one person wrote in response to their friend getting surgery. "The betrayal, hurt, and anger that I've felt since then is mind boggling.” – via BariatricPal.com
Dramatically describing a friend's choice to undergo surgery as a loss is not only confusing, it's downright offensive to those who are actually dealing with tragedies. Plus, if all goes well, the only thing that changes during weight loss surgery is the actual weight, not a person's personality.
"I wish I was
big enough to qualify for bariatric surgery too." – via Reddit
The only thing worse than putting someone down about their surgery is wishing you were in a "worse enough position" to go through the same difficult situation.
"I've thought about going the easy way out like you and having surgery. But I decided I'd do it the right way instead." – via BariatricPal.com
Surgery is often seen as "taking the easy way out," but in reality, it's the only option for millions of people.
“You’re not the person I married.” – via New York Times
Chances are, if this is what one partner says to another after weight loss surgery, their issues were already surfacing beforehand.
"Aren't you worried people will be grossed out by
all the saggy skin you'll have if you lose all your weight?" – via Reddit
When going under the knife for such a serious procedure, this should be the least of anyone's worries.
"I've had some friends post-surgery see me once in a while eat just TINY amounts of dessert and say, 'You should cut those out completely.'" – Aviva, 31
Food shaming goes hand-in-hand with body shaming when it comes to weight loss surgery, but the truth is, no one knows what sort of eating plan or health requirements a person is under.