Getting married is a thrilling time for any bride-to-be — but we'd be lying if we didn't say it's stressful AF. No matter how long you've been with a person, getting married is a huge life change, and if you're throwing a traditional wedding, it is topped with a ton of little details to sweat and fret over. Not to mention the insurmountable pressure for your day to be "perfect."

Unfortunately, when you're a plus-size bride-to-be, people tend to push their personal agendas of perfection on you — especially when it comes to things like your dress.

Here are a few questions and suggestions no one should ever say to a plus-size bride (or really any bride ever).

1

"Are you planning to lose weight before the wedding?"

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No, I'm not. Or maybe I am. What difference does it make to you?

2

"Man, it must be a lot of pressure to have all those skinny bridesmaids."

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Actually it's not, because the women I chose to stand beside me are the women who've been there for and championed me throughout my life. 

3

"You should totally try this detox, it'll flatten your tummy!"

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I prefer my tummy the way it is, thank you. 

4

"That dress will look SO pretty once you put some Spanx on."

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And you'll be a lot prettier once you cut that judgmental bullshit. 

5

"An A-line dress will be most flattering."

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If I want to wear a skin-tight mermaid dress I will because FUCK FLATTERING. 

6

"Oh but you'll look so much classier with sleeves!"

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And you'd be a lot classier of you kept your mouth shut but I suppose we don't live in a perfect world. 

7

"You should totally try this trendy workout to tone your arms for the big day."

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I'll do what I like with my arms, thanks. 

8

"This girdle will totally shape you perfectly."

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OH. MY. GOD. I had NO idea I was actually made of Play-Dough!!!!!!!!!! Can you shape me into a unicorn?! 

9

"Make sure you angle you body like 'this' in your pictures — it'll make you look skinnier!"

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Just leave.