valentines day outfits
photo: Revelist/ Brittany Fowler

One of the most exciting things about Valentine's Day is the glam. 

Whether celebrating with bae or besties, getting va-va-voom gorgeous on the most romantic day of the year allows us to flex our style and rock the brightest color in the spectrum: RED.  

Now, red is a double-edged sword. It is unquestionably THE color to wear on Feb. 14, but it can be super daunting to many. Red says, "Look at me!" — and not all of us are comfortable with that.  

For anyone who needs a bit of inspiration on how to wear red with confidence, my work wife and I decided to go on a shopping spree for sexy Valentine's Day outfits no matter what size you wear or style you gravitate toward. 

Twinning! We started with a classic red wrap dress with a generous split à la Angelina Jolie. 

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Sexy wrap bodycon dress ($35, ASOS)

Brittany looked so good, I literally screamed when I saw her come out. 

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"I felt like a bombshell, but I found myself holding in my stomach because the material is not forgiving," said Brittany.

valentines day look
photo: Revelist/ Jessica Torres

"Yes I’m thin, but that doesn’t mean I don’t battle my own insecurities!" she continued. "As an eating disorder survivor, I now have such a great appreciation for my body and all it’s capable of, but that doesn’t mean I’m NEVER self-conscious. After a few glasses of wine and chocolate-covered strawberries, my food baby will be on full display."

Thanks to ASOS' amazing size range, I was able to rock the same dress in my size. 

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photo: Revelist/ Brittany Fowler

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I decided to wear Spanx with this dress, but you could definitely skip it if you don't mind a little VBO (visible belly outline). I have to admit that standing next to a friend who has society's version of an ideal body made it hard to feel uber confident.

With a dress so curve-hugging, I began to compare my body to hers.

valentines day outfits
photo: Revelist/ Brittany Fowler

One of the biggest problems I had before discovering body positivity was comparing myself to my friends and sisters who were so much smaller than me. But, like I do on a daily basis, I reminded myself that wearing this sexy dress is about me and no one else. 

For the second look, I challenged Brittany to wear something more my style. 

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photo: Revelist/ Brittany Fowler

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High neck top lace jumpsuit with contrast binding ($67, ASOS)

Jumpsuits don't scream sexy to Brittany.

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photo: Revelist/ Brittany Fowler

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"The merlot wine color spoke to me. The black lips spoke to me. The lace cape whispered to me, but I still heard it," said B. "Overall, I felt like a badass ladyboss who spruced up her go-to pantsuit for Valentine’s Day dinner. While I love the freedom pants offer, these bad boys cinched my waist a little TOO much, leaving no room to overeat (who wants to count their chocolates on VDay?!)."

She would have preferred this jumpsuit as a maxi dress or pants and a top. 

valentines day outfits
photo: Revelist/ Brittany Fowler

As for me, jumpsuits make me feel powerful and sexy. 

valentines day outfits
photo: Revelist/ Brittany Fowler

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Depending on how I feel, wearing something that shows off my VBO can be intimidating. But with a jumpsuit I'm rarely fazed by it. 

I remembered that I can feel confident wearing whatever I like, VBO or not. 

valentines day outfits
photo: Revelist/Brittany Fowler

Sexiness is more of a feeling than a look. 

In Spanish, Valentine's Day translates to the day of love and friendship, so making Brittany wear a matching dress for our Galentine's Day celebration was a must. 

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photo: Revelist/ Brittany Fowler

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Ruffle wrap mini dress ($40, ASOS)

I felt instantly comfortable when I put this dress on. 

valentines day outfits
photo: Revelist/Brittany Fowler

I was really excited to see my gym rat work wife try something this girly. 

She's smiling here, but she is not sold. 

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photo: Revelist/Brittany Fowler

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"I never wear this much color or ruffles. This is the exact opposite of what I normally feel sexy in. Confidence-wise, I rocked it like it was athleisure (I feel sexiest in my gym clothes), but this isn’t a piece I’d wear again," said Brittany.

Final Thoughts:  

valentines day outfits
photo: Revelist/ Nicole Bansen

Lack of body confidence doesn't just make you insecure, it sucks the fun out of life's best moments. Who wants to miss out on going shopping for a hot dress with your bestie because you're filled with anxiety and dread over wearing a bold color or showing a little extra skin? 

Don't let that voice in the back of your head keep you from living life. Wear the sexy dress your skinny best friend would wear and remember that you are as beautiful as she is.