The way body positivity is often portrayed is jarring — like you just wake up one day, realize your body is beautiful, and preach body love to anyone willing to listen. Unfortunately, body positivity doesn't quite work that way. In fact, more often than not, body positivity is a journey, not a destination — and sometimes you won't feel 100% about the body you're in.

Blogger and body positivity activist Michelle Elman just got real about what it means to learn to accept your body and how it's not always a constant.

Elman, who's behind Instagram account @scarrednotscared, revealed what it took for her to feel OK with her body.

"The secret to body positivity," she began. "Isn't that what we all want to know? Isn't this why you are here, on my page, reading my captions? You want to know what makes me so confident and why you can't be the same? Well I'll tell you the secret... there is no secret. Yes, there are things to learn, and mindsets to shift but there is no 'secret'. There is no quick fix. It's a bunch of small baby steps that unfortunately you never got to see along the way because I didn't have an Instagram account when I was going through them."

She also pointed out that despite it feeling impossible sometimes, the journey simply won't be linear.

Elman reminded her readers that not only is body positivity a journey, it's an uphill one.

"You can not rush the process," she stated in her caption. "It won't be a linear uphill journey. There will be somedays [sic] where you question if you made any progress whatsoever. It is worth it. The process is part of the fun."

As for the process itself? Elman describes it as an active one, and not a passive one.

"Body positivity is an action," she explained. "You do it ever single day. You do it when you stop yourself right before you are about to mention a diet. You do it when you intervene on body shaming. You do it when you look in the mirror and tell yourself how much you love you, even when you don't want to. You do it when you stop a fat girl in the street to tell her how amazing she looks. What you put into body positivity, you get out of it. This is not an online movement." 

Elman's real talk about what it means to truly be body positive is something you need to tape to your mirror STAT.

It's OK to sometimes not love your body. It's also OK to not feel like your best self every day. It's about being on a journey of loving yourself, and not beating yourself up for not feeling 100% all of the time.

"Body positivity will transform your life but it won't eradicate all negative emotions. Ups and downs are life. It's time we get used to the fact that both life and our bodies are NOT stagnant things and never will be!"

Preach, girl!