Valentine's Day is the one time of year when, no matter your relationship status, you get to focus on yourself. Of course, ideally this happens all the time, but for the sake of argument, give yourself an excuse to indulge this Valentine's Day season. Whether you've got a partner (or a few!) or are riding solo, these sex toys and accessories will take you wherever you want to go. 

Lola Sexual Wellness Kit, $35, Lola

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First, allow me to be your mom. No matter what kind of sexual play you're engaging in, whether it's solo or with people of all different genders, you need to stay safe. Lola's Sexual Wellness box comes with everything you need to stay protected and comfortable, including five latex condoms, water-based lubricant, and fragrance-free, pH-balanced cleansing wipes. Plus, you get $5 in store credit toward another Lola purchase when you buy the kit. Stay safe, kiddos!

High On Love Stimulating Oil, $50, High On Love

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It's lube! And it contains hemp oil! The High on Love Stimulating Oil will make your sexytime easier in all the right ways, while the hemp oil activates blood flow and lights up your pleasure points. You don't need to smoke to see stars, just grab this stuff off your nightstand — you'll totally want to show off this gorgeous packaging. 

Please note that this is an oil-based lubricant, so do not use latex barriers, such as latex condoms, as the lubricant can break the latex. Cornell Health also notes that oil-based lubricants can leave "a coating on the rectum or vagina that can lead to bacterial or other infections" — in other words, clean up immediately and thoroughly after play!

Bàyit Nasaane Azarias Collar, $70, Bàyit Nasaane

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Heck yes to Bàyit Nasaane, a small business owned by a "nonbinary queer Anti Zionist Jew," as they describe themselves. This is one bedtime collar that you'll want to wear everywhere — from the sheets to the karaoke squad meets. The leather comes in several colors, but that ox-blood color is especially killer with the tough brass hardware. Attach those O-rings to whatever your heart desires.

Zana Bayne Leather Buddy Keychain, $69, Zana Bayne Leather

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Zana Bayne's Leather Buddy keychain will keep your keys company — and give you something to look forward to when you get home. Clip it to your house keys carabiner,  your handbag, or belt loop to subtly broadcast your predilections. 

Creepyyeha Love Story Tee, $25, Creepyyeha

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Love isn't just sexy, it's also stunningly beautiful. Yeha Leung of Creepyyeha models her own incredible handmade lingerie and harnesses, but this is an affordable bit of her kinky luxury. It's totally not safe for public outings, but hopefully this tee will come off soon anyway.

Liebe Seele Wine Red Leather Thigh Cuffs, $61, Etsy

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If you're been looking to add to your leather collection, you'll know that quality, durable leather play pieces cost a tied-up arm and a leg. Japanese Etsy store Liebe Seele is my personal favorite go-to shop for affordable leather harnesses and restraints that are as beautiful as they are functional — and trust me, I've put my wrist cuffs through some serious abuse, and they've held up wonderfully.

Womanizer Duo, $208.05, Amazon

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For folks with a clitoris and vagina, the Womanizer Duo is the ultimate in indulgent pleasure. Using signature air pressure suction technology, you'll reach the heavens quicker than ever before. And with the G-spot end, you can also stimulate your sensitive vaginal areas as well for double the fun.

Dame Pillo, $95, Dame Products

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We all need a little cushion for our pushin'. Dame has made this gorgeous sex pillow that won't look hideous on your bed, but will make it easier to reach those hard-to-hit areas and maintain your favorite positions. Trust me, the difference is so real.

Lovehoney Broad City Ass of an Angel Butt Plug, $37.72, Amazon

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Broad City did a lot for millennial attitudes toward anal play and pegging. Celebrate the show's, uh, legacy with this silicone butt plug decked out in the Broad City colors. You'll be stoked to use it every time you take it out of your nightstand drawer.

Unbound Palma Ring Vibrator, $128, Unbound Babes

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For when you can't wait until you get home, Unbound's ring vibrator makes stimulation portable and fun. It's discreet, attractive, and gets the job done. If your date compliments your ring, wink and tell them that they haven't seen anything yet.

Restrained Grace Black & Iridescent Rainbow Deluxe Leather Bondage Cuffs, $90, Restrained Grace

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Restrained Grace is a handmade BDSM accessories company owned by two queer women, so yes, you should throw them all of your money. But you should also give them money because their wares are nothing short of stunning, like this leather cuff set with iridescent hardware. You won't find more beautiful, hardier, play-ready leather restraints, so invest in leather that pleases more than just the eye.

Savage X Fenty Heart Shaped Crop, $30, Savage X Fenty

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Experience the thrill of watching your partner take in your commands — or submit yourself to your partner's desires with a little encouragement from this crop. But don't save it for partnered time; with its long, flexible shaft, you can give yourself pleasurable stings all by yourself.

Magic Wand Rechargeable, $179.99, Sensuale

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The one and only Magic Wand got a much-needed tech makeover with this rechargeable version. It's not cheap and it's not pretty, but trust me when I say that the Magic Wand goes the distance, and then some. And it's not just for clitorises — for people with every kind of genitalia, the Magic Wand will take you to outer space and back before you can even finish the countdown. 

Lelo Gigi 2, $139, Lelo

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Ahem. OK. So, this is my go-to vibrator, and it has been for several years because it works. The Gigi 2 is attractive, comes in a few colors, and is fairly straightforward in terms of controls, making it the workhorse of your sex toy collection. It's primarily meant for vaginal and clitoral stimulation, but can be used for anal play as long as you're careful to keep a hold of it.

Parachute Home Cloud Cotton Robe in Rose, $99, Parachute Home

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Look, you need a comfy bathrobe. You just do. After a hot session, hit the bathroom and cozy up in this Parachute bathrobe. You'll feel so luxurious as you clean up the scene of the love crimes and bask in the afterglow.