It's never too late, or too early, to buy your first vibrator.
I bought mine at a sex expo in Melbourne, Australia, while studying abroad in college, pink-cheeked and giggling with a couple of girlfriends over the gaudy, cheaply made purple thing (which I'm pretty sure didn't last a year).
I had no idea what I was doing, but you don't have to be in the same sinking ship I was back then (oh, to be young!).
We spoke to Claire Cavanah, co-founder of women-friendly sex shop Babeland, to get her best, first-time vibrator buyer's tips.
Revelist: Why do you think some people, especially women, are still embarrassed to buy themselves a vibrator?
Cavanah: There is still a lot of stigma around women's sexual pleasure. Sex ed usually addresses disease and pregnancy prevention, not the concept that your body has a lot of pleasure zones and how to get the most from them. Women are shamed for having sex and it's completely understandable that it could feel embarrassing to some women. On the flip side, there are so many young women who come to Babeland feeling empowered and thinking, “of course I want a vibrator, so many choices!”
What's the first thing a newbie should look for when buying their first vibrator?
It’s important to consider what kind of stimulation you like and how you want to use the vibrator. There are styles that work best for clitoral stimulation or for internal stimulation, and some that do both. There are also dual-action vibes and couple’s vibes.
In the end, it all comes down to one question: Does it turn you on? Aesthetics matter and go for the one that you feel attracted to.
What about pricing? Some vibrators can be pretty expensive. Can you get a good vibrator if you're on a budget?
Babeland strives to have quality choices in every price point. Generally, less expensive vibes have fewer features. Some of the features that you can find in higher priced vibrators include rechargeable ones (instead of battery-powered), more intensity levels and patterns to customize your experience, stronger motors for more powerful sensation, longer warranties, more innovative functions (like having an app to control it), different materials — silver or gold-plating, or velvety matte silicone, for example — or waterproofing.
I recommend trying to find the best vibe you can afford even when you’re trying it for the first time. You’ll get more ways to discover what you like about this kind of stimulation and be able to integrate it into your sex life in more ways. It will last longer, too!
What are some reliable vibrators that first-time buyers should keep an eye out for?
Here are a few that are great choices at a range of pricing levels.
For clitoral stimulation:
Iroha Mini Vibe ($28)
For internal or external stimulation:
Lovelife Discover Mini Vibe ($59)
For dual-action or "Rabbit-style":
Rabbit G-Vibe ($72)
For G-spot stimulation:
For couples (can be worn during sex):
Eva ($105)SEE ALSO: Grass condoms are coming, no pun intended