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Victim-blaming is an all-too-familiar response to sexual assault. Rather than faulting rapists for raping or gropers for groping, rape culture places the onus on victims rather than their attackers. It's been seen in high-profile incidents, like the sexual-assault allegations against Bill Cosby, and on college campuses.

Twitter user UnsubtleDesi, who is identified on the social media platform as Nupur, brought attention to the unfair ways women are always blamed for being attacked on January 2. The disturbing viral thread highlights why victim blaming is so harmful and illogical.

At the end of each tweet, Nupur included the line "because some men rape."

That line, in particular, shows how women are forced to comport to avoid assault — rather than placing the onus on men to stop attacking women.

Rape is a crime about power, but the way we culturally speak about rape focuses way too much on women's behavior and emotions.

For instance, registered sex offender Brock Turner blamed sexual promiscuity and binge drinking for his attack on a fellow Stanford student:

I want to demolish the assumption that drinking and partying are what make up a college lifestyle I made a mistake, I drank too much, and my decisions hurt someone. But I never ever meant to intentionally hurt [redacted]. My poor decision making and excessive drinking hurt someone that night and I wish I could just take it all back.


Turner's unnamed victim directly combatted this claim in her powerful court statement. "If you want talk to people about drinking go to an [Alcoholic's Anonymous] meeting," she said. "You realize, having a drinking problem is different than drinking and then forcefully trying to have sex with someone? Show men how to respect women, not how to drink less."

It doesn't matter if a victim is single or married, sober or intoxicated, clothed in shorts or jeans, rape is still about the attacker, not the victim.

As this haunting Twitter thread makes plain, rape may always happen, but that doesn't mean it isn't worth fighting against.

And if you're feeling disheartened, here's what all women can do: