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Another day, another example of a guy just not knowing when to keep his mouth shut

As BuzzFeed points out, it all started when Twitter user Tiffany Stevenson tweeted out that she had witnessed something truly troubling during a recent Starbucks visit: A male barista telling a pregnant woman that she shouldn't be drinking coffee. In her tweet, Stevenson characterized the whole thing as an "unbelievable bit of womb bothering," and honestly, that is some new and inventive phrasing that I can get behind. 

Naturally, it didn't take long for the internet to erupt with responses to this latest example of mansplaining that simply went too far.

Meet Tiffany Stevenson. She recently had a not-so-great experience at Starbucks.

As Stevenson, who lives in London, explains, the confrontation began when the male barista inserted himself into the business of a totally unsuspecting pregnant woman. 

You see, she had ordered a (caffeinated) caramel macchiato, and barista guy had a problem with that. He asked if he should make it decaf, to which the woman responded, "No, thanks." But then he responded, "No, I should, because caffeine is bad for the baby." 

*Jonathan Van Ness voice* Can you believe?

Stevenson continued to give her play-by-play of the whole alarming incident. The woman explains that it's totally fine for her to have one coffee a day, to which the male barista dude says, "But... you shouldn’t." 

And that's when Stevenson herself interrupted and put him in his rightful place: "Are you, a man, telling a woman what she should and shouldn’t have during a pregnancy?"

Unsurprisingly, his response was: "Oh, just because it’s bad for the baby, so that’s why I’m saying it."

Let's all get one thing straight.

Having a little bit of caffeine, just as the pregnant woman at Starbucks explained, is generally considered not a big deal. According to the University of Utah, women should limit their caffeine intake during pregnancy to less than 200 milligrams per day. 

"Now that would be about two small cups, like the cups that your mother used to put coffee in, or one 12-ounce cup," said Kirtly Jones, M.D., obstetrics and gynecology at University of Utah School of Medicine. 

Jones says it's all about moderation.

"[It's] not the extra grande or supersize cups of coffee, or cans, or Coke cans of caffeinated soda," she explained in her report. "The reasons for this recommendation comes from the Scandinavian studies that are very large and can follow moms, babies, and dads of babies." 

She added that "there's a suggestion that consuming more than 200 milligrams of caffeine per day slightly increases the risk of miscarriage," but again, that's precisely why most pregnant women tend to drastically reduce or eliminate their caffeine consumption.

One thing is for sure: The male barista was definitely out of bounds.

Yet again, Stevenson described the encounter as "unbelievable." Although she told him to stop lecturing a woman on the decisions she was making for her own body, he apparently continued "to try and justify policing a complete stranger for five minutes." And according to Stevenson, "he was maybe 30 years old max." 

All of the yikes.

Many people thanked Stevenson for stepping up.

One woman recounted how she would feel if she had been in the other woman's shoes. 

"I’m currently pregnant, and if someone tried to take my one coffee a day away, I’d punch them in the face," she tweeted at Stevenson. "None of his business. Love you for sticking up for her." 

Honestly, I would probably have a very similar reaction. 

Someone else said that she's not surprised by the inappropriate exchange.

Twitter user Polly Molotov shared her two cents on the topic, suggesting that these types of incidents are happening more often, and that it's because people think they have the right to tell pregnant women how to live. 

"Literally nothing surprises me anymore, that we become ‘public property’ when pregnant, it’s just hideous," Molotov wrote.

Cal Wilson, an Australian comedian, opened up about her own experience of dealing with nosy folks.

"You are the best, Tiff," Wilson wrote on Twitter. "When I was pregnant, I had a stranger in a lift say to me, 'Oooh, should you really be drinking coffee, Mum?' It’s not coffee. It’s none of your business. And unless I’ve given birth to you, you don’t call me Mum." 

And all we can say to that is: Many very important points were made. 

In conclusion, we would like to speak to a manager.

Seriously, what gives? Baristas are there to make lattes and pretty foam art, not subject strangers to their personal opinions, especially pregnant strangers. 

"Will you complain to their twitter?" asked one of Stevenson's followers. "He needs retraining. And besides the point but he’s not even correct, it’s fine to drink a couple of coffees."

And lastly, don't even think about touching that chocolate.

In fact, don't touch anything a pregnant woman wants because odds are there's a good reason she's wanting it. And at the end of the day, minding your own business takes so much less energy than stirring the pot and pretending to be a know-it-all. Make everyone's lives easier and keep your opinions to yourself, kthxbyeee!