When I was younger, one of the worst things that I could be called was fat. 

I knew I was fat, but hearing someone else say it, in a benign way or a teasing way, made me feel extremely vulnerable. As I grew more confident and learned to appreciate my body, I learned that fat was just an adjective. I'm petite, I have dark hair, I'm funny, I'm nice, I'm determined, and yes, I'm fat. 

Fat describes me, but it does not define me. I'm way more offended by these things... 

1

When a stranger looks at me a certain way whether I sit in the seat next to them or not.

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The fat-shaming is written all over someone's face when there's that one, cramped seat on a busy train and I walk through the door. It's the look of "you can't sit here" and it hurts. Even if I don't want to sit there! 

2

When it's assumed that I eat nothing but junk food.

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I love a good vegan meal, thank you very much. 

3

When expectations for me are different — especially professionally — because of stereotypes about my size.

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Any boss who thinks I lack confidence because of my weight to do a job better look out — because I'm coming for their job, since they obviously don't deserve it.  

4

When it's assumed that I don't work out.

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5

When men fetishize me for my size.

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#NOTYOURFETISH

6

If a guy is sketchy about introducing me to his friends and family...

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...and I know it's because of my weight. 

BOY BYE. 

7

When Facebook and Instagram censor plus-size bodies by deleting photos that don't violate terms.

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*SCREAMS, NEVER STOPS*

8

When people say, "You are so pretty for a big girl."

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HOW IS THIS STILL HAPPENING????

9

Not being able to dress in the same trends as my straight-size friends because plus-size fashion is still very limited.

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See also: Not being able to SHOP with my straight-size friends because my size isn't carried in any of their stores. Awful. 

10

Thinking that I should settle for less in life because that's the best I deserve.

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