Beyonce is confidence personified

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Confidence is sexy. We've all heard that five thousand times. But how do you find confidence on a low self-esteem day?

Fortunately, it's not as hard as you think. Here are 11 easy ways for you — yes, you — to start feeling more confident RIGHT now.

Make a positive list.

I'm a little type A, and I also struggle with depression. As a result, I get organized when I have a self-esteem crisis. One of the best solutions is to write a list of your best attributes — no matter how small. "My right eyebrow is a gorgeous slope of elegance." Focusing on your strengths allows you to reflect on all you've *really* got going on.


I'm an exerciser, but I don't always want to do it. So instead of viewing physical activity as a burden, I've found things I love to do — like dance, pilates and yoga.

Find a class, move around and let all those good endorphins work their magic in the old noggin!

Go outside. Right now.

Too often, going outside is often at the bottom of our to-do lists. But there's a grounding element to being outside. Fresh air, deep breaths, birds, trees — it's all a reminder of your place in the world. We're all sharing this Earth together, we're all connected... and being in nature can snap you out of a funk.

Diversify your beauty standards

At the sake of sounding like a Millennial, Instagram is a powerful tool for diversifying standards of beauty. One of the best things I've done for my mental health is to started following women whose bodies looked like mine, and stopped following people who made me feel weird and competitive.

Being mindful about who you follow online — and how those follows make you feel — can do wonders for your confidence.

Listen to rap.


1. Because it's great.

2. Because researchers at the Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern found that listening to bass-heavy may might have the power to make you feel more confident.


Meditation is ALWAYS a good idea.

It's crazy I don't make it part of my daily practice, because if I meditate even a few times a week, I'm truly my best self.

Turning off your brain, sitting in silence and resting the chatter upstairs is a brilliant way to focus your energy and feel better about yourself.

Stand up straight!

Power posing sounds like a challenge on "America's Next Top Model," and maybe it was — but it's also the idea that we can affect our self-esteem with our body language. And standing tall ranks number one when it comes to feeling more confident.

Roll your shoulders back, then lift your chest proudly when you feel your confidence slipping.

Do something smart!

Dusting off the cobwebs in your brain bucket is a grand idea for feeling good about yourself. 

Brain games — like Sudoku, a crossword, or solitaire — are a great way to keep your noodle sharp. And when you're feeling a bit down, knowing that you can finish a puzzle is a great boost.

Get dressed up... for nothing.

We have this idea that we can ONLY get dressed up for a big night out on the town. But it's simply not true.

If you're feeling like you need a boost, it can be a game changer to put on a red lip, curl your hair, and marvel at how dope and beautiful you are. You don't need anyone's approval, you're cute on your own.

Organize something.

I mentioned I was type A, right? But this one really works.

Cleaning washes away feelings of failures. I know I sound crazy, buuuuut someone much smarter than me said it first. Dr. Kai Kaspar from the University of Cologne ran experiments where he encouraged people to wash their hands after failing at a task. He found that people who washed their hands were confident they would complete it next time.

My point? Organize your closet. It might make you feel more confident!

Talk to someone who makes you feel good!

Talk to your friend, cat, dog, hamster... someone (or something) that makes you feel good and calm.

Bring up that you're feeling off, and if your friend is worth their salt, just admitting that to someone who you love will take the stress off of it. Soon enough, you'll be giggling your head off and reminding yourself that you're a queen.