As we all embark on the journey toward loving ourselves, we're bound to hit a few bumps.
Some of the biggest obstacles to overcome are the ones you didn't realize you've been climbing over the entire time. From self-deprecating thoughts to misguided actions, many plus-size girls have unconsciously been cruel to themselves.
Here are some of the most relatable ways plus-size girls unconsciously hold themselves back:
We constantly compare ourselves, even when we don't mean to.
Sometimes it's scanning the room to see if you're the biggest girl there, sometimes it's even comparing your size to other fat women one on one.
We've been conditioned to think that the bigger you are, the less respectable you are, so if you're not the "worst" in the room, you're still within good graces.
We unconsciously try to hide our bodies.
Have you ever noticed you always pick the seat in the restaurant that allows you to see people, but hides your body from them? Or do you find yourself cradling the closest pillow every time to sit down?
Yeah, been there, too.
We always offer to take photos.
Because that's way easier than being in them, right?
And when we are in photos, we can't help but scrutinize them.
Did I get behind enough people? Does this angle show my double chin? Do I look bigger than the other girls?
We silently congratulate ourselves for "good behavior."
From avoiding sweets to simply not eating as much as a thin person, we've all been there.
We can be skeptical AF of everyone's motives, even if you've known and loved someone for a bit.
We question people's attraction or their love for us because we've been told that we are an exception and not a rule.
We do *anything* to take the focus off ourselves.
Because being seen could be downright soul crushing, depending on who is doing the looking.
We see the beauty in others, but forget to forgive ourselves.
We're all for body positivity, but struggle to apply it to ourselves.
The truth is, all of these subconscious acts are truly detrimental — but they are totally fixable.
No matter where you are on your self-love journey, try to be aware of these habits. Once you see them, you can't un-see them — which hopefully means you can begin combating them.
You're worthy of your own love, and we believe in you.