All women — regardless if they have curves, no curves, long hair, short hair, or were born with vaginas or not — are real women. However, in the spirit of misplaced and misguided "body positivity," some people only refer to "real women" as those who have curves. What gives?

Body positivity blogger and author Megan Jayne Crabbe of @bodyposipanda sought out to disprove the term once and for all.

The blogger posted a side-by-side of Amalie Lee, a fellow blogger.

The photo on the left featured a curvy Lee, while the photo on the right was of Lee looking thinner and less curvy. The overlaying text on Lee's body on the left read "real woman," and the text over the right read "also a real woman."

Lee's caption echoed her frustration with the term "real women have curves."

"I was just as much a real woman when I was underweight as I am now," she wrote. "Quotes like these are often followed up by 'men prefer curves' or 'nobody wants to cuddle a stick' and I swear I've even seen these lines used in #bodypositivity and #edrecovery. I find that disgusting."

"My realness, worth or womanhood is not defined by how appealing I am to a man," she continued. "Anorexic women (or women being underweight for whatever reason) are WOMEN." 

She then reminded her followers that skinny-shaming is still body shaming.

"Another 'real woman' pet peeve is when *insert company name* proclaims they are using REAL WOMEN in their campaign," she said. "Because thin models aren't real women. No, those 6 feet thin girls walking the catwalk or fitness ladies posing on the magazine cover must be aliens."


Lee insisted that all women — even the ones you don't like — are "real."

"All women are real," she continued. "Also the women you don't like. Also the women that make you uncomfortable. Also the women who do things you disagree with, either that be using tons of makeup, engaging in sex work, dressing a certain way, photoshopping themselves or getting plastic surgery."

While Lee's post received plenty of love on her page, when Crabbe reposted it on hers, she was criticized.

One commenter explained that they were "exhausted" by the comparison shots of "normative model bodies being presented as politically powerful." Other commenters said the post was triggering, and that it's yet another post making a big deal of how a thin, white woman sees her body.

The post was also criticized for representing the opinion of a body that's already revered in society, insisting that her opinion, while valid, is misplaced in the body-positive community as it's coming from someone who isn't a part of a marginalized community.

In short, it's complicated.

Body positivity as a whole was intended to normalize and celebrate marginalized bodies — trans women, women of color, differently-abled bodies, plus-size bodies. To many within those groups, Lee's body on either side of the photo represents a societal ideal: skinny, white, able, and conventionally attractive. It's understandable that her post didn't hit with many of the commenters on Crabbe's page.

However, Lee's post and her opinion is valid. It's her body, and she's just as entitled to share her views about her own body and worth as anyone else. 

I'm sure this was a huge learning experience for both parties.